Q&A: Question 2

Tabbatha Asked:

I am not homosexual, but I have no harsh feelings towards men and women who are. I don't think God "hates gays", but I do have a question. I think we're all in agreement on the fact that we should not have premarital sex. Since in most states homosexuals can't get married, how can that be justified. In order not to sin should homosexuals stay virgins for life? I'm not sure where I stand on this. One of my good friends is homosexual, and one of the most Christian men I've ever met. He doesn't judge anybody and he truly lives his life for Christ, but is not a virgin. I find it hard to believe that God would cast him out just for that, but when I think about that it shakes my beliefs in God entirely.

My Response:

Well it depends on a lot of things Tabatha.

1. My what means do you define "christian". You noted that your friend is one of the most "Christian men" you have ever met. How are you measuring that?
2. Now, I do believe that God is against men or women having sex before they make a commitment to love, share and live two as one. The fact is it depends on how we define "marriage" and by what means does "marriage" between two people become officially knitted together as one soul. In the Word of God a branch of government did not need to endorse or officially state what is or isn't a marriage, as we are doing today. They only needed God as their witness. In some cases when two people lived in the same house for a long period of time, that was considered 'marriage'. You have to ask yourself (as I do) "Do I need a government to say that my love for another person is true and pure, or do I need God's? And if I need only God to define it, why should I worry about being understood or accepted by the world around me?" 
3. Now each 'christian' gay or straight defer in regards to 'sex before marriage', especially among the GLBT folks. Some "gay Christians" let down their spirituality to please their sexuality--which I think is unbiblical. Spirituality came before sexuality. I believe sex before the ceremony of commitment between two loving adults, who promise to be pure, true and faithful to their last breath, is wrong. I believe personally that sex is the act of weakening oneself in order to be taken over by another--unpassively. As a gay man and with my beliefs past on the Bible, I believe Paul clearly states that "passive" acts by a man to another man is unmanly, and he obviously condemns that act. But the REASON for condemning that isn't because the persons' sexuality but because of his intentions and what was being practice. These men who took the role of a female usually in sexual relations, was a act of worship to the gods and goddesses of sex and pleasure. These men weren't in a loving committed relationship in which we see today. Now some gays may believe that 'well i can't get married, so why wait' but I don't believe that to be the case. Because Biblically speaking we can get married. I don't need a government or church to say what is love and isn't, I have my God to do so. There for I say finally that we should, as GLBT men and women of faith, to not have sex with our lover until we make that public commitment of 'til death do us part".